Listen Linda

I’m not a fan of the saying of ‘faking it till you make it.’ I faked so many things in my life previously in active addiction, in past marriages, relationships that I feel it best to come into recovery with full blown transparency, honesty, open mindedness, and willingness to be completely 100% percent no longer faking it. No longer faking it with myself. No longer faking it with other people. Just no. What’s the point, in all honesty.

I let things flow. I am learning more and more about how to let things go that I have no control over. And the balls to say if something doesn’t sit right with me. I do try to be polite about it though. There are ways to communicate things without being rude. Granted I do sometimes get caught up and go a little overboard with the things I say. But I am working on this. Trying to be better, do better, think better, and just be more mindful of what I say, how I say it, and communicate properly.

Why fake our feelings? Maybe it’s to save face for ourselves, or someone else? That there is fear of rejection. And unfortunately, that’s something that does happen. Because not everyone can handle constructive criticism, brutal honesty, and straightforwardness and it’s a problem. And it’s why we sugar coat things sometimes.

 Because we don’t want to ‘hurt’ anyone’s feelings. I understand the concept behind it. The thinking of other’s aspect. But for me personally, I rather someone be completely honest with me now, than stay festered and turn into something toxic later. If people value other people and want to see relationships thrive. But parties should be open to transparency. I’m a big girl. I can handle the truth. If someone cares. You would want this. And being willing to communicate like this would be beneficial in any aspect of any relationship. It makes sense to me.

Why fake something we don’t like? You don’t like the way something is. Try to find a way to change it? Do something about it, if it is within your power to do so. And the opportunity presents itself. Take the risk, make that change, and make stuff happen. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed. And if it is setting yourself up for success? Why the hell not?

Don’t fake anything. Communicate openly. Don’t hold back feelings and emotions about situations you don’t like. Or if you do like something, say something. If you don’t agree with the way things go, maybe a change of perspective is needed to regain peace of mind. Or maybe it’s time to move on? Either way. Don’t Fake it to you make it. Because at the end of the day. We are only hindering ourselves from full growth.

I personally feel that being authentic can be really liberating and is essential for building genuine relationships. And let’s not forget that it plays a huge role in self-respect.

Honesty is important. Being honest with ourselves and others is crucial. It helps build trust and does prevent misunderstandings. I feel when I am transparent. I allow others to see the real me. It paves the way for deeper and meaningful connections.

Learning to let go of the things I can’t control is a significant step in personal growth, recovery and changing one’s mindset. It can reduce stress and help focus on what needs to be changed.

It’s also important to be able to communicate with people and express feelings and opinions without being rude. I agree this can be challenging. But I personally feel it’s defiantly a skill worth developing. Being mindful on how I communicate can help maintain relationships while still being true to yourself.

It’s true that a lot of people fake our feelings to avoid rejection or conflict. But it’s unhealthy. Embracing honesty even if it means facing rejection is much healthier in the long run. Flat out crucial.

Not everyone can handle straightforwardness. But this is essential for growth. It’s about finding the balance between being honest and being considerate of other’s feelings…and I’m learning too.

I feel that if one doesn’t like something, taking the steps to change it is empowering. It shows that they’re being proactive and willing to take risks for our own happiness and success.

SO, TO EVEYONE WHO STILL FAKES IT? STOP FAKING IT!!!