Listen Linda

My problem consists of multiple things. I’m concerned about whether there is something that has individuals of the opposite gender that assume I’m some kind of meat. On what planet do you go up to a perfect stranger and imply whether I would be interested in them or their friend…like I’m some kind of prostitute. I don’t know how you were raised. But my daddy at least showed my mother respect. I know there’s decent men out there.  And all the rest of them are home with their spouses and doing what they’re supposed to be doing. Living a happy, healthy, marriage, relationship like they are supposed to.

I’m not perfect. And I am sure there are plenty of women who give us good ones a bad name too. I also see nothing wrong with adults doing adult things. That’s between them. At the same time. Since when it had been ok to assume that I was even remotely going to be okay with you asking if I wanted to meet your friend, plus not even knowing who the hell you are.  Much less get pissy when I didn’t want to meet you or your friend. You got me fucked up if you think that was even appealing in the first place. Did that work for you on someone else? Did it get you anywhere…maybe it did consider its online. But I’m not the one. And yes, you have been blocked.

TO Be Fair…
I understand how some people would be okay with being treated this way. But I’m feeling very frustrated and disrespected. And thinking that people can make assumptions about my willingness to be engaged without considering my feelings. Not knowing me. But obviously, oblivious to the concepts of boundaries. *SMH*

To show just how understanding I am about why some people behave this way. In some cultures, or social circles, approaching strangers in a direct manner might seem normal or flattering. Now, I see nothing wrong with being direct. I happen to be a very direct person. And I will go straight to the point, every time. But it doesn’t excuse the point of being disrespectable. And what’s appropriate conversation and appropriate behavior.

If the conversation leads to sex. Great. But don’t assume right off the bat that it’s already there.  Shame on you.

If we would have met face to face. Shared any kind of communication on a verbal level. I can understand how signals may have misinterpreted. People can confuse kindness and friendliness and politeness as a come-on invitation for more personal interaction. If someone isn’t used to that kind of innocent, normal, considerate behavior…they defiantly lacked a decent childhood. Period.

And the worse part about all of this is that anonymity and distance provide online interactions to be bolder and both men and women can be more forward and act more inappropriate without regrets of dealing with any kind of consequences. And unfortunately, the internet makes it easier to be this kind of way. I wish I could behave in a way where I lacked respect and didn’t have to worry about other people’s feelings. But unfortunately, I’m an empath and I wish to not be anything like that. And for that I am thankful, grateful, and at peace with my decision to be better than that.