GETME

Gestalt/Experiential Training of Maine


Leave a comment

Rogers’ Definition of Empathy

Carl Rogers made empathy the cornerstone of his approach. But what, exactly, is empathy? Rogers spent his career thinking deeply about this question. Here’s the definition he offered in his 1959 chapter:

Carl Rogers“The state of empathy, or being empathic, is to perceive the internal frame of reference of another with accuracy, and with the emotional components and meanings which pertain thereto, as if one were the other person, but without ever losing the “as if” condition.

Thus it means to sense the hurt or the pleasure of another as he senses it, and to perceive the causes thereof as he perceives them, but without ever losing the recognition that it is as if I were hurt or pleased, etc. If this “as if” quality is lost, then the state is one of identification.”

Later, Rogers came to believe that empathy was better thought of as a “process” than a “state.” In a lecture delivered in 1974, he talked about empathy this way:

“The way of being with a person, which is termed “empathic,” has several facets:

It means entering the private perceptual world of the other, and becoming thoroughly at home in it. 

It involves being sensitive, moment-to-moment, to the changing felt meanings which flow in this other person — to the fear, or rage, or tenderness, or confusion, or whatever, that he or she is experiencing. 

It means temporarily living in his life, moving about in it delicately, without making judgments, sensing meanings of which he is scarcely aware, but not trying to uncover feelings of which is totally unaware, since this would be too threatening.

CRogers3It includes communicating your sensings of his world, as you look with fresh and unfrightened eyes, at elements of which he is fearful.  It means frequently checking with him as to the accuracy of your sensings, and being guided by his responses. 

You are a confident companion to him in his world. By pointing to the possible meanings in the flow of his or her experiencing, you help him to focus on this useful type of referent, to experience his meanings more fully, and move forward in his or her experiencing.

Now to be with another in this way it means that for the time being, you lay aside the views and values that you hold for yourself, in order to enter his world without prejudice. In some sense it means that you lay aside yourself; and this can only be done by a person secure enough in himself that he knows he will not get lost in what may turn out to be the strange or bizarre world of the other. and can comfortably return to his own world when he wishes.

Being empathic is a complex, demanding, strong, yet subtle and gentle way of being.


Leave a comment

Carl Rogers & Gloria

Both training groups are underway, and we’re deep in the study of Person-Centered Therapy now. As we talk about both the theory and the interventions, we have read short excerpts from Rogers’ transcripts to get a sense of what his interventions are like.

As texts, these transcripts are fascinating and instructive. But text alone loses so much of what’s conveyed between the therapist and the client. Audio  — or, even better, video — allows us to more fully grasp the action.

Many counseling students have seen the famous “Gloria” film, where a woman allows herself to be filmed while having a single therapy session with three different therapists representing different approaches. Carl Rogers was one of those therapists.

If you haven’t seen it recently, or have never seen it, take the time to watch or rewatch it.


Leave a comment

2017-2018 Training Dates

The 2017-2018 training dates have now been finalized. Here is when each of the groups will be meeting:

The Wednesday group will meet from 9am to 11am on the following dates:

The Wednesday group is now wait-list only.

  • September 20
  • October 4 & 18
  • November 1 & 15
  • December 6 & 20
  • January 10 & 24
  • February 14 & 28
  • March 14 & 28
  • April 11 & 25
  • May 9 & 23
  • June 6

 

The Friday Group will meet from 9am to 1pm on the Following dates:

  • September 15
  • October 20
  • November 17
  • December 15
  • January 19
  • February 16
  • March 16
  • April 13
  • May 17
  • June 15

Note: This is the third Friday of every month except in April, when it is the second Friday.

Click Here for Registration Form

For more information, click here. 


Leave a comment

GETME Training Schedule Update

I’ve had a number of inquiries about the scheduling of the training, and I wanted to pass along some new options.

First: there were some folks who wanted to come, but simply could not make it on Fridays. So, in addition to the Friday section, we’re now offering a section every other Wednesday morning from 9am to 11am. This one is going to go for sure, so if you’re interested, let me know soon.

Second: Several people got in touch to say the training sounds great, they’d like to come, but they live far from Portland, and can’t see making the commute twice a month. Well if that’s you, and you’re still interested, I’m going to offer a section that meets one Friday a month for four hours instead of twice a month for two.

So there are now three options:

Beginning Autumn 2017

  • Section 1: Every other Wednesday, from 9am to 11am
  • Section 2: Every other Friday, from 9am to 11am
  • Section 3: One Friday a month, from 9am to 1pm*

Cost:

  • Fully Licensed: $40/meeting
  • Conditionally Licensed: $30/meeting
  • Graduate Students: $20/meeting

* Cost is doubled for 4 hour meeting

Certificate of Contact Hours available.